Positive Discipline
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Sharon Spencer
Brighten my World Christian Child Care
707-642-1010
brightenmyworld7@AOL.Com
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Effective discipline is helping, teaching, and learning.
BRIGHTEN MY WORLD CHRISTIAN CHILD CARE
Subject: Summary of class entitled
Positive Discipline with Joni Levine, Instructor
This site is designed for those who care for and about children. Childcare directors and administrators, preschool teachers, child care givers, education coordinators, advocates, and students will find valuable information and resources through the ON Line Training Courses. Joni Levine is the webmaster and founder and main author of this site. She has a B.S. in Early Childhood Education and an MD in Instruction and Learning with a minor in Curriculum Design and Development.
Description- This training is designed for both novice and experienced providers who care for preschool age children. Participants will learn to identify common misbehaviors and how to prevent them; they will learn the goals and guidelines of positive discipline and design a list of classroom rules. Participants will also be actively involved in applying positive discipline techniques to help guide children and promote safe behavior and self-control.
Learning Objectives- As a result of this training, participants will be able to:
Identify common cause of misbehavior
Give knowledge of causes of misbehavior, apply strategies to prevent misbehavior
Identify goals and guidelines of positive discipline Utilize the goals and guidelines of positive discipline to design a list of appropriate classroom rules Identify and describe positive discipline techniques
Given specific scenarios of childrenˇ¦s behavior; implement positive discipline techniques Demonstrate strategies for children to learn appropriate social skills and to feel valued in a group
SUMMARY OF POSITIVE DISCIPLINE COURSE
Discipline is one of the biggest problems that many Child Care Providers face today. The online series of lessons was prepared for child care providers who want to do a better job of disciplining their children. The lessons were especially written for providers and parents of preschool children, ages two to six, but some of the discipline methods are appropriate for older children, too. The titles of the lessons were:
A Look at Discipline
Discipline and Punishment-What's the Difference?
Why Children Misbehave
To Prevent Misbehavior
Responses to Misbehavior
Learning to discipline children effectively is hard work. Learning to discipline children is a real challenge.
What Is Discipline?
Discipline can be defined as:
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Helping a child learn to get along with his family and friends.ć
Teaching a child to behave in an agreeable way.ć
Allowing a child the freedom to learn from his mistakes and experience the consequences of his decisions.ć
Effective discipline is helping, teaching, and learning.Discipline Is Not Punishment
Some think discipline and punishment are the same thing. Some think discipline is getting a child to behave and teaching him to be obedient. Some think it is what you do when children are naughty or misbehave. Whereas punishment focuses on the child, discipline targets the act. When we punish a child we are in effect saying to him, "You are loved (or not loved) because of the things you do." Punishment teaches the child to be "good" as long as we are looking - but as soon as we turn our heads, watch out!
Discipline separates the child's "goodness" from how well he does on a task. Our message now says, "You are OK even when your behavior is NOT OK." We love the child but reject the behavior. The purpose of discipline is to raise responsible, confident children who grow up to be persons who think for themselves, who care about others, and who live satisfying and useful lives.
Program Your Child For Success
The most important factor that determines children's success in life is how they see themselves. Do they see themselves as learners? As being loveable and capable? Each day brings new experiences that have the potential for either building or destroying their self-concept. Every time we give a child an order we are sending him a powerful message that says, "You can't think for yourself; I've got to think for you." Children look to their parents for confirmation of what kind of person they are. At a very early age they begin to look for things within themselves to prove that mom or dad is right.
If it's possible to program children for failure, it's equally possible (and preferable) for us to program them for success. We can free children from playing negative roles by:
Looking for opportunities to show them a different picture of themselves. "You've had that toy since you were a baby and it still works like it was brand new. You take good care of your toys."Putting children in situations where they can see themselves differently. "Picking up your blocks is a big job. I'll hold the bag open while you put them in. Cleaning up is more fun when we do it together."
Letting children overhear you say something positive about them. "She held her arm steady for the Doctor even though the shot hurt."
Modeling the behavior you'd like to see. "It's no fun to lose, but I'll try to be a good sport about it. Congratulations!"
Being a storehouse for your childˇ¦s special moments. "I remember the time you . . ."
Stating your feelings and expectations when the child slips back into playing an old role..
"I don't like that. I know you want to win but I still expect good sportsmanship from you."
Age And Stage Make A Difference
MANY TIMES WE ARE often annoyed by a child's behavior when he OR SHE is only acting his age. Some behavior that is hard to live with is typical of most children that age. For example, young children have a great deal of energy and need to be active. If WE realize how hard it is for a young child to sit still and be quiet, WE SHOULD arrange for the child to use up his energy in a way that doesn't irritate them. Our number one concern, whether we are two or ninety-two, is to have personal control over our lives. Young children want to be independent and to do things for themselves, so that much of their so called "bad" behavior is a sign that they are growing. After all, WE wouldn't want the child to remain a baby who is completely dependent on PARENTS AND PROVIDERS. Preschool children have a hard time telling the difference between fact and "pretend." If children in this stage say, "I saw a bear," they may not know the difference between what they "saw" in their imagination and what they actually saw. Parents would not call the child a liar; instead, they would say, "You did?" and encourage his imagination. By school-age the child should be able to tell the difference between reality and fantasy.
Children are curious. They just naturally want to learn about things around them. They may take things apart just to see what will happen.
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